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Sitting with my pain…
If you are like most people, the idea of sitting with your suffering sounds like about as much fun as eating dirt. Sitting with my pain? Are you nuts? I would much rather distract myself and go party than have to suffer!
Compassionately partnering with pain is a big topic. Contrary to popular belief, compassion is not having a bleeding heart full of sympathy for others. The truer resonance of compassion is given by its etymology: the word comes from the Latincom-pati, which is made up of the prefix com meaning “with” and the root pati for “pain, suffering.” Thus compassion is to be “with my pain.” That is also how the “Passion of Christ” is the Passion of Christ! Compassion is to be moved by such love that I am willing to do what it takes to heal a situation. Dedicating my life to do so is a noble intention. Yet, before I can help another, I have to help myself and embrace my own pain. Then I can be with the other, as I model the change I wish to see in him or her.
When I have the courage, the presence and the persistence to REALLY sit with my pain and feel all its dimensions, I am much less likely to project my shadow feelings—my fear, my anger, my sadness, etc.—onto the other. Mi casa is su casa: my pain is your pain. When I can understand it, contain it, name it and pacify it, I can understand your pain, and assist you to contain it, name it and pacify it. Once this practice is mastered, I receive the keys to embodied integrity and thus to a life well- lived.
Making friends with my pain is exactly what we will be discussing on our New Essenes’ show this Sunday. That is also the subject of the last of the XPR FOUR Motions, one of the foundational tools of XPR, which states:
- Compassionate Partnering: the more I am responsible for my [not] communicating separation, the more I begin to welcome misuses of Power as genuine opportunities to heal the split. When such a lapse occurs, I inquire and recognize it, I stay present with it, and surrender to it until I experience it in full.
As a reminder, Motions 1, 2 and 3 were as follows:
- Self-Knowledge: understanding intellectually that I am One is a great beginning. Understanding it experientially, and thus sustainably embodying that knowing, is life’s ultimate goal—a “time” when all notion of goals and all planning disappears.
- The Power to Transform: ALL complaints in the physical world stem from split beliefs (body follows mind, as long there is a mind to follow). When the mind awakens from the DREaM of duality, the conspiracy of ignorance stops, and I can feel again. I then turn within to hear what LOVE wills, and surprisingly find the Power to transform.
- FULL Response-ability: the more sensible motions 1 and 2 are to me, the more I become willing to take FULL responsibility for the part(s) of me that are still invested in [not] communicating separation.
We will begin our exploration and meeting at noon EST / 11 AM CST / 9 AM PST this Sunday. If you can join us live, great! If not, you can always listen to the archive or join us live for our other New Essene shows via Elevate the Soul radio.
Included below is our meeting information,logistics and access additional complimentary methods to learn more about XPR. Until then, peace be with you.
Michael, Maha & the emPowering NOW team
ps. Don’t forget, whether you are joining us live, or are listening to one of our archived meetings, we highly recommend that you download the New Essenes eBook and have it available to follow along.